Thursday, August 16, 2012

Who knows what life will bring?

I've been off for a couple of days -- had to get Grace ready to go to Grandma's, I'm now on the governing board of her school and had that meeting, and also something very sad -- one of the women I worked with suddenly, completely unexpectedly, passed away.  It's still kind of a mystery what happened -- the police had her place taped off for a couple of days, but it appears to have been either suicide or an accident.

She had struggled mightily with some physical problems for the past few years and was in a great deal of pain, daily.  Still, she soldiered on, coming to work, not complaining.  It may be that she reached the point where it was too much for her to bear -- if that is the case, I hope that it was her choice to say "enough" and not an accident.

I know this is a controversial topic, but I truly believe it should be a person's choice, if they have a chronic illness, to decide to let go.  I supported my own mom's decision, when her cancer had gone on for several years, to not undergo more chemo or radiation, but to choose to say her goodbyes and let go.  It was extremely painful to me, but I had to respect her decision.  I don't see a lot of difference between that and deciding to take matters into one's own hands -- my mom essentially made the same decision; it just took longer (and caused more suffering) waiting for the end to come.

Whew.  This turned out pretty serious, but I was kind of thrown for a loop by her passing.  What would you think, if you had (or have had) a loved one go through a long period of suffering?  It's very hard to know what to do.

Here's a flower -- go with God, dear friend.

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Nancy Claeys said...

Such a sad story, Elise. Death is never something we can prepare for, even after a long illness. I do hope your friend didn't suffer. Lovely tribute photo. xo

Mrs4444 said...

That's heartbreaking. My dad found out he had cancer on a Wednesday and passed away the following Monday, as we were getting ready for Hospice to come. It was truly a blessing. I can only imagine the suffering you went through with your mom. I'm sorry for you loss but happy for your perspective. That kind of perspective is a gift.

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TexWisGirl said...

i am sorry for the pain your friend endured and for the shock and loss her sudden death brings to those left behind.

i am not certain how i feel on the subject. being raised catholic, we were told suicide prevented you from heaven. but we were told a lot of things... and to die with dignity would be a desire for us all...

Bohemian said...

I'm so very sorry to hear of the Loss of your Friend. I'm with you on your outlook. My Dad chose Native American Medical Practices over Western Medicine during his lengthy battle with Cancer. He outlived Grim prognosis by Western Medical Doctors by many, many years. But when he felt it was a good day to die {his words the day he let go} he submitted his Spirit willingly and on his own terms of giving up the Ghost without a struggle or further fight. It made a tremendous impact upon me on a Life well Lived and a Dignified Passing that ended much Suffering and Battling serious illness. Though he did not take his own Life, I wouldn't have been surprised or ashamed if he had... when someone is already battling Terminal Illness and Intense Suffering Death is emminent and the only real issue is Timing IMO. I know that is controversial thinking... but we often deal with the Suffering of an Animal much more Humanely than we do the Suffering of a Human Being and that mystifies me. To be absent from the Body is to be present with the Lord... if He has already determined the outcome to be passing from Time into Eternity then I feel any compassionate Heart couldn't fault a person for moving toward the Light when they can no longer take any more of the Suffering and delays in the inevitable.

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